Wednesday, February 11, 2015

Am I the Only One Having a Quarter Life Crisis? | Life Lately

 Hello loves,

How are you doing?  Today I have a different kind of post for you.  I'm having a sort of quarter-life-crisis, and I could really use some advice.  Ready?

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As many of you know, I started a once of a lifetime job this past summer.  I've spent the past few months traveling around the country, working with young leaders at college campuses across the country.  This was my dream job for years, it is still surreal that it's what I'm doing. Every day I wake up feeling extremely grateful and amazed at what I get to call my work.  If you would like to read more about my job as a Leadership Consultant, check out these previous posts: 1/2/3.

My plan was to travel for a year (this job is only for people straight out of college - with the option of traveling for second year), move to Madison, and start looking for an elementary teaching job - that is what I got my degree in after all. That plan. That was the boyfriend plan.  
That plan is over a year old - and needs to be scrapped.

^^^ The fact that I even just typed that is horrifying to me. If any of you knew me prior to my adventures on the road, I was perhaps one of the most uptight, scheduled, preplanned people on the planet (cheers to the accidental alliteration). But it's true.  I need to find a new plan.  No, I don't want to abandon teaching.  I love to teach.  I love children.  I love seeing them learn.  That is something that will never, ever change.  Sure, I like Madison too. It's a beautiful city.  But I don't need moving there to be in my plan. I'll move wherever the hell I want to.

At this point you're probably thinking, "Okay, Traci. We get it. You don't have to move to Madison. This doesn't quite seem like the existential quarter-life-crisis you mentioned earlier."


Here's the thing. This whole lack of a plan thing has opened up a world of possibilities.  I'll list them out for you to make it easier.

- Go to grad school for student affairs in Virginia
-Travel as a consultant for a second year
-Move back to Wisconsin and teach elementary school

I'm totally conflicted.  I've been trying to figure out which one I'm going to choose for weeks now. I've exhausted countless pro/con lists (in true Rory Gilmore style), spent hours on the phone with my boss, my parents, my friends, and laid in bed awake just thinking. My friends have been lovely, and super supportive.  They say things like:


But here's the thing... I'm passionate about all three. This has been the most amazing year of my life.  I have learned so much, become comfortable with who I am as a person, and really challenged myself.  This job is one of the most wonderful things in the world - and I would love to do it for another year.  Grad school. I would enjoy jumpstarting my career in Student Affairs so much - especially if I get into my number 1 school.  With this path, I'd get to use the skills I've learned as a consultant, and apply it to an education - and ultimately a career.  Then there's teaching.  It's what I spent 4 years of college learning how to do.  It's something I love.  It's something I never want to give up. But then again, I never want to give up traveling or student affairs either.... I'm truly passionate about all of my choices.

Then - there are the drawbacks to each option.  Traveling takes me away from my family and friends at home - and puts certain aspects of my life on hold for another year.  I'll turn 25 on the road.  Grad school is expensive - and also postpones the start of a career.  Teaching puts me in a career - but inhibits me from working towards another career that I would also love to have. 

Oh... And I forgot.  I have to decide if I want to travel again next year by the 15th of this month... Which is less than 4 days away... God help me.

Do any of you have another perspective I could look at all of this from?  Are any of you going through something similar? How are you handling your quarter life crisis?I need to feel like I'm not alone here.

I don't even know if you guys like to read this kind of stuff from me - but I needed to reach out to my own little corner of the internet for some peace of mind. 

With love,

Traci J

Monday, January 26, 2015

My Hair was Saved by Lady Godiva

Hello loves,

I have to share with you the greatest, most hydrating shampoo I have ever used in my life.  Seriously - this stuff is so moisturizing it's not even funny. It has CHANGED. MY. LIFE.

For the past few weeks I've been working in Philly, and when I had the day off last week - I decided to venture downtown.  Guess what I found? A LUSH Spa! Naturally, I had to go inside.  After a few minutes of oogling all of the Valentine's products, I worked my way over to the solid shampoo section.

Since the people at LUSH are always so helpful, I asked the woman what shampoo was the most moisturizing.  When I travel, I'm dealing with so many different water conditions - most of which are not friendly to my bleached tresses - so I need to put a lot of moisture back into my hair.

She recommended the Godiva Solid Shampoo.

LUSH says, "Our vegan, 2-in-1 shampoo bar cleans and conditions your hair with moisturizing nut oils and shea butter. These butters and oils care for dry, processed locks and leave you with glossy, shiny, and softened tresses. Long used as a tonic for the hair and scalp, jasmine also perfumes your locks with an ultra-sexy fragrance with serious staying power. Named after a certain naked protestor, Godiva gets to work sending a message to your hair."

Now - I am not using this as a shampoo and conditioner - I use it to cleanse, and then proceed with my hair care routine as normal (condition, deep condition - every so often). I alternate this shampoo with Seanik - which is a lot more clarifying - and gets rid of any buildup. 

I have seen a CRAZY noticeable difference in the quality of my hair.

It is silky, no visible split ends, and it's super easy to comb through post shower. All things that I was struggling with before. I'm not kidding, Godiva by LUSH is a revolutionary product - especially for bleached or damaged hair.  

What are your holy grail haircare products? Let me know in the comments!

With love,

Traci J 

Tuesday, January 6, 2015

7 Facts about Me | One Lovely Blog

Hello loves,

I was recently nominated by Jadirah over at Jasmine Catches Butterflies for the One Lovely Blog award - thanks Jadirah!

I'm not always a huge fan of these tags - sometimes I feel that bloggers just nominate anyone - and don't truly follow or read their blog.  So I always respond a little differently.  I will be listing the 3 blogs I've been reading recently at the bottom of this post - and challenge ALL of you that are reading this to respond to the tag - you all have one lovely blog. : )

Let's get into these facts.

1. I graduated from University with a degree in Elementary Education, although I am currently working with college students.

2. My favorite color is orange.

3. I danced for 19 years of my life - ballet, tap, jazz, hip hop - I did it all.

4. I am an only child.

5. Coffee is my one true love. I could drink it ALL DAY LONG - and sometimes I do.

6. If watching YouTube videos was a full time job - I would be the best at it.

7. If I'm awake - I'm probably listening to music.  I constantly have it on.

The three blogs I've been loving recently are: 

Now I challenge all of you to let your readers know a little bit more about yourselves - give us 7 facts - and then let us know what blogs you've been reading lately - our own little twist on the One Lovely Blog award.

Thanks for stoping by!

With love,

Traci J